Shifting blame on others is the preferred escape route for proud persons who know they are guilty of offences or they have failed to reach an expected goal , but they are unwilling to admit guilt or blame for their crimes and for their self-inflicted failures and misfortunes.
The ability to lie, to criticise and to shift blame on others would depend on the extent to which a man's conscience is seared and the extent of pride and self-delusion in the mind of the accuser.
" Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;" 1 Timothy 4:2.The ability to lie, to criticise and to shift blame on others would depend on the extent to which a man's conscience is seared and the extent of pride and self-delusion in the mind of the accuser.
Some people allege that their problems were caused by those who they think have the influence and power to transform their lives , but they have failed to help them.
Accusers would deny their faults , blaming others. It is , always, "his or her fault" ; but never "my fault".
Usually, blame or reprimand comes with a penalty, which for most people is an unpleasant burden because they do not want to be blamed and penalised for their misdeeds; especially if they knew that their guilt and punishment will be made public .
When they are desperate to escape liability, there are people who have no qualms about heaping all their blame on others.
Preferred targets for blame are parents , the government , the rich and successful persons , teachers, bankers, social workers , spouses, the Police and Almighty God .
The carnal man would resort to lying and blaming others when faced with the dire consequences of their actions . They would resort to any and all means
of escaping liability .
It is easier to lie and blame others who are not within ear-shot ; but there are persons who could look others in the face and lie against them, without batting an eyelid.
However, whenever a man points a finger at someone else, inevitably, four of his fingers are pointing at himself.
In offices, schools, on the streets, in relationships , in marriages , in churches , homes , neighbourhoods , the Blame-Game is played as people shift their blame on others.
Some times, accusations of blame are not misplaced because there are indeed , cogent reasons to blame persons who deserve blame like; bad parents, problematic families ,bad wives or bad husbands, bad pastors and church members from Hell , bad governments and irresponsible citizens and so on.
What is unacceptable is when others are held responsible for blame which is ours.
The list of accusations from persons hoping to dodge blame, is as long and limitless as they are absurd,such as these:
"My father abandoned us and our mother, or my parents did not send me to school , they did not love me or care about my progress in life; or I was abused as a child !
That is why today , even at 30 years old, I have not been able to achieve anything !"
Really? What of some people who were loved and pampered by their parents ; yet they grew up to become problems to themselves and their society?
There are some abandoned children and orphans who grew up in care homes , having no parents to love them and nobody to guide them in life; yet , they have become decent adults who have done very well in their lives.
" You are not responsible for the programming you picked up in childhood. However, as an adult, you are one hundred percent responsible for fixing it ". ~Ken Keyes, Jr.
The streets and prison cells are full of convicts lying and accusing everybody but themselves for their crimes : " It is not our fault. This government has failed to provide jobs, food, accommodation , clothing , free transport and credit facilities to the masses, that is why we have chosen lives of crime!"
This over-used excuse by criminals flies in the face of sound reasoning.
These criminals are not the only persons in the country feeling the pinch of adverse times.
If every one who is facing hardships decided to take to crime in the society , what then?
*"She made me do it ! Why did she dress half naked? She was asking for it ; so I attacked and raped her !"
She dressed half-naked; but did she dress like that for your benefit ? Because you are who...?
Other men saw her dressed like that but they looked away. Why didn't you look away?
* "It is their fault. I entered their house and and robbed them because they shouldn't have left their windows open at night!"
Good. Prison beckons you. In your cell , your insanity would be cured.
Envy and bitterness result in accusations.
* "Yes, it's a fact we graduated the same year ; or we started our businesses the same month ; or I started my church ministry years before his started.
But today , people say he is doing better than I am ! I don't think so! Doing better in what way?
I am sure they have achieved rapid growth and success through dishonest and diabolical means !"
"Oh , he says he is a writer ?! Copy- work! Plagiarism ! That is what he has been doing! "
* "The rich people are , all of them, a bunch of corrupt capitalists and thieves!
They and their children must be shot dead , imprisoned and be dispossessed of 90% of their stolen wealth and their wealth must be distributed to the poor masses!"
Envy not. If you have failed to make it in life; whose fault is that?
It is not a crime to be rich and successful, by righteous means.
The rich and successful owe no explanations or apologies to anyone for their riches.
* "My husband does not understand my need to look good, always! Why should he complain about my new £1200 designer hand bag?"
* " I have been coming home after 3 a.m.,everyday? So what? My wife is causing problems in our marriage! I expect her to understand my needs as a man. I expect my wife to be a patient , persevering and peaceful woman of integrity! I am her husband! She must show me love and respect by welcoming me home with smiles and hot meals, even if I returned home at 4 a.m; not nagging me, disturbing my peace with irritating questions and demanding to know where I have been all night ! "
There are women and men who are involved in love relationships with different men and women at the same time , hoping that these people will never find out their deceit.
When they eventually find out, these love-cheats would blame their victims for finding out.
" Why should she find out my secret? She is just too intelligent for her own good! "
Some people who dropped out of school even blame their teachers for it.
* "Teachers should be blamed for pupils' truancy and for their students dropping out of schools!
I dropped out of school because I couldn't stand the constant disrespect from my school authorities. Teachers should learn to show respect to their students by not hurting their students' feelings with disrespectful harsh words!"
* "Pupils who refuse to do their home work and who under- perform in school and those who disrupt the peace of the classrooms, must be handled with care ; or else schools would lose them , forever".
* "The Police must be trained on how not to disrupt the peace!
The Police agitate criminals by turning up in places where the Police are not wanted and by asking people questions which they should not ask them !"
*" Social Workers are to be blamed for causing the government welfare spending- cuts! They've been writing assessment reports which say people who have never worked in their lives are now fit to work ; even when such persons are not willing to work!"
And so on and so forth. Accusations galore !
Have you been a victim of abandonment , of abuse , of fraud , cheating , of jilting or divorce, false accusations and other forms of ill-treatment?
Your unpleasant experiences are not new or unheard of on earth and they are not excuses for anyone to stagnate and to remain bitter and hurt.
Those who have hurt you with their words and actions , intend to derail your God-ordained destiny and to blight your future. Do not give them that satisfaction.
The greatest revenge against your haters and detractors is for them to see it and to hear it that you are succeeding ; that you are happy , you are bubbling , glowing and shinning , that you are blossoming and fruitful in your life.
Amen !
But , you would not arise to that enviable level if you do not move on from all the unpleasant memories of their persons and their evil deeds.
It is time to move on . Move away and stay away from unprofitable people and do not allow the evil they have done , or which they are doing to you , bear fruit in your life.
If you are one of those persons wasting your time and energy , by dodging your own blame but accusing and blaming God and everyone else for your faults and your failures; be assured that your sorrows have just started and you will be the all- round- loser .
All false accusers and artful dodgers have their inevitable reward .
Evil shall slay the wicked: and they that hate the righteous shall be desolate. Psalm 34: 21.
While the victims of your false accusations are doing well in life, it is not so for you , the unrelenting accusers.
The unrepentant accusers problems will increase , their problems will escalate and become more complex and messier !
Accusers will continue to stagnate and to retrogress in their lives ; going round in circles of problems ; because God frustrates the token of liars and accusers.
Maybe , the persons you are accusing are not even aware of your headaches and belly-aching. Why not give it up and ask for forgiveness and mercy from God, today ?
" For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death ".2 Corinthians 7:10.
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